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Real Housewives’ Jennifer Gimenez on Reaching Out to Kim Richards, Fighting With Brandi Glanville — Exclusive
Jennifer Gimenez Poses at the Us Weekly Hot Hollywood Style Event on April 18, 2012
Although she’s not a full time cast member, from time to time Jennifer Gimenez appears as a voice of reason on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and a comforting presence on Rehab with Dr. Drew. Wetpaint Entertainment chatted with the reality star at the RHoBH Season 3 premiere party on Sunday about juggling two shows, fighting with BFF Brandi Glanville, and reaching out to Kim Richards.
Wetpaint Entertainment: What was it like shooting Rehab and RHOBH at the same time?
Jennifer Gimenez: It was crazy because I was living at Brandi’s house and shooting Rehab, working 18-hour days. I would work nights, and I would wake up and I would shoot Housewives, which was insane! On one show, I’m saving lives and on the other one, I feel like I’m letting my hair down a little bit, yet it’s so dramatic.
Are you still living at Brandi’s?
I recently moved out of Brandi’s. She’s the one who actually threw me into treatment. Brandi and my mom saved my life years ago. We were both going through some changes in our lives and we both thought it was a great idea to move in together and it was. Living with her and the boys was just so great. Now I live on my own; I feel like I’m wearing big girl panties.
You always seem to be there for Brandi; is she always there for you?
Yes, we’re like sisters and we fight like sisters. You see us bicker a little bit; we’re like an old married couple. She’s family, and she shows up for me all the time and I show up for her. What we do is real love; it’s unconditional.
Aside from Brandi, who else do you get close with this season?
I love Yolanda [Foster]; I get very close with Yolanda. I get very close with Lisa [Vanderpump]. I think Kyle [Richards] is great.
You’re seven years sober, is that correct?
I will be in January!
Have you been able to reach out to Kim and offer her guidance or advice?
I did! I reached out to Kim last year at the end of the show. I said, ‘Do you need my help? Is there something I can do?’ She was like, ‘Eff you, you’re Brandi’s friend.’ I said, ‘Eff Brandi and the cameras. This is about your life.’ This year, we actually got to know each other a little bit more so it was nice. Everyone always asks me ‘How can you do a show like Housewives and Rehab? How dare you?’ It’s like I got sober to live my dreams and I can’t, so I don’t, but everyone else is entitled to drink or do whatever, I’m not here to save the world.
Any chance we’ll see you acting in the near future?
Yes, I have Rehab out right now. I shot a movie called Chastity Bites last year; it was my first movie back sober. Then I shot another one, Groom’s Cake, and it’s won seven out of eight in the film festivals for best comedy.
I’m shooting another feature in November called Birthday Cake so I’ve been really busy. I’ve been co-hosting another show and I still do CNN and HLN. I don’t sleep, and I’m writing a book. I lost 130 pounds! In recovery, I gained 100 pounds but I’ve lost 130 since.

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Jennifer Gimenez On Episode 7 Of Rehab With Dr. Drew: Loaded Souls

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Each week after Rehab With Dr. Drew, we’ll be talking to some of the staff on hand at the Pasadena Recovery Center to find out everything that went down in front of and behind the camera with this season’s group of patients. This week we spoke to our friend Jennifer Gimenez, the resident technician at the facility who had battled demons on her own, and she offered up her insight and some behind-the-scenes details for this episode, ranging from Eric running away and his emotional reunion with his mother, to Deanna‘s obsession with Tupac.

So in the aftermath of the gang showdown, once everyone returned to the facility, it was still pretty much just mayhem. What was going on with you that whole time that Eric was running and you were trying to prevent Deanna from walking out?

It was more important for me to stay with the group than leave and go looking for Eric, because you can’t leave the group alone. It was more important for me to talk Deanna out of leaving, and at one point I started crying and she looked at me like “Are you crying for me?” and I nodded and she was like “Oh! I think I’ll stay then!” They don’t show that, but I think she realized that people there were caring about her. The good thing was that they were all talking about what happened — even if it wasn’t the kindest words, but they were talking it out and starting to communicate what washappening because it was such a traumatic experience. While Eric was running, thankfully there were cameras that at least knew where he was. It was so traumatic, and a lot of people are asking me “How did you feel?” or “Why didn’t you have any protection?” and I really was in survival mode at that point, my mission was just to care for them. It wasn’t me trying to figure out anything about me until the night was done.

It came out that a few of the women in the group were a little bit traumatized by Eric’s aggression and tone that he took because of their histories and their past experience with abuse. Knowing the similar past you had, were you upset or ever worried that Eric would lash out at you?

When Eric was yelling and doing his thing, I know that has nothing to do with me. If they don’t like me or react to me in a certain way, I know it has nothing to do with me, because they don’t really know me. I knew that with Eric, it wasn’t about me, what it was was that I was his authority figure. And with Eric, it was always about his authority figure, and how his authority figure, his mother, has always let him down. So I knew that from day one, but I knew he wasn’t there to hurt me. What the girls saw and what upset them, I said this last week a little but, when they saw me get thrown around outside near the van, they had no idea what was going on, and they saw me getting tossed around and they went into their own trauma, in their past.

You mentioned Eric’s issues with authority figures, but it was also brought up this week that he might have issues with women. In your case, was it that you were his authority figure, or that you were a woman in charge?

Let me clarify, Eric has issues with authority figures, but with his female authority figures especially, it was a whole other ballgame. We did get very close, but his mentality was that I was going to let him down, as his past has proven that to him and made him believe that.

I’m glad that Eric’s mom and his aunt were both there this week to get the family dimension of his story out there. Did his mother know all his resentment toward her prior to that session?

I believe family counseling is amazing because you have a third party there, and you’re talking about a sick mother, a sick aunt, and a sick son. Three sick people who are, as Dr. Drew said, harboring all these issues their whole lives and you don’t hear it. I love how Bob and Dr. Drew say to Eric [after his mom talks about her drug use] “Don’t you have compassion for her now?” That doesn’t take away from the fact that this young kid was hurt by his mom, the young boy in Eric was hurt, and I’m sure she knew it. Eric had no coping skills or ways to talk about it, and here he is now talking about it, and I think it’s going to take a very long time for him to heal.

Later in the episode, Deanna has a bit of drama when her boyfriend, who has just been released from prison, finds some love letters of hers from other men. Can you tell me more about what happened with them?

She admits, and you hear her say this, that she did things because of drugs, and she got together with other people. I don’t know if she would have done that if she wasn’t on drugs, I just know that that’s what happened. Their whole relationship though is so sick anyway, though. They got a beautiful child out of it, but he was in jail for selling drugs and she was doing drugs and it was very volatile and unhealthy. The irony of her being in treatment just as he’s about to leave prison after she hasn’t seen or touched him in three years is pretty wild and the irony, in that sense, is beautiful, that she was able to cope with that.

It was shocking to hear her discuss also how many times she has been robbed and raped in her life, it was almost as if those things were just routine and no longer traumatic for her.

Well, I think you have to realize that these are survival modes. Deanna said she was molested at age seven so her history is so long for her and through drugs and alcohol it became more, and more, and more. At this point she’s an abuse survivor, it’s what she knows and in order to survive that, you have to numb yourself. It’s like a disassociation, those are her coping mechanisms, and when you talk about abuse like that, it was so powerful to hear her say she felt dirty and bad about being abused. That is so typical in people who have been raped or abused, you feel bad about it. My heart broke watching that. So many women can relate or have gone through that.

Dr. Drew also pointed out that she gets a little high from bad things and living on the edge. Does that beget having bad things happen to her? Was it a thrill for her to put herself in dangerous situations?

I think that she the lifestyle of it, almost like, the “glamorous” side. Like, she loved Tupacloved — and it was funny because at first she tried to be really tough with me and then she found out I was in a Tupac video and she was like “You don’t understand, he’s my idol!” It was the only time I ever saw her have any emotion, and she actually had a tear coming down. I was like “You have a feeling!” and we started laughing because you see her breaking through that. Se was glamorizing this life but I was like “This guy died!” and I was really trying to get her to realize how glamorous it is NOT. To be in that gangster lifestyle, I was like, that’s movies and fiction, babe. So I think she sought out more of that than having bad things happen to her. She sold drugs, her man was in jail, it was the thug life she was into. She had those crazy ails like knives and eventually she let me file them down but when she even just allowed me to talk to her about them, it was a miracle. She was a loaded soul and when she let her guard down, she was beautiful.


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Jennifer Gimenez On Episode 6 Of Rehab With Dr. Drew: “Never, Ever, Ever Walk Down A Dark Alley”

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Each week after Rehab With Dr. Drew, we’ll be talking to some of the staff on hand at the Pasadena Recovery Center to find out everything that went down in front of and behind the camera with this season’s group of patients. This week we spoke to our friend Jennifer Gimenez, the resident technician at the facility who had battled demons on her own, and she offered up her insight and some behind-the-scenes details for this episode, which involved a scary episode involving two runaway cast members who find themselves in the middle of gang territory. Though everything ended safely, Jenn gave us the real story of how the situation spun out of control and the entire group was put in danger.

Tell me the story of what really happened between the guys who approached you, Eric and Drewbee.

We were at the AA meeting and within three minutes, Eric and Drew decided to go outside and smoke a cigarette, and within moments, they left. I was running around the streets of north Pasadena looking for them, which is not a very good neighborhood, and there are some gang houses around there, it’s just not a safe neighborhood. So the guys decide to take a walk and I’m running down the street in an unsafe place, and I find them in a dark alley. I ran up and, you know, that whole confrontation between the three of us lasted longer than what you guys see, and I told them “You’re lucky nothing happened to you guys.” They were like “Chill out, enough already!” and I was like “No, you don’t get to leave the group and you didn’t even let me know! What if something happened?” and boom, this car comes around.

I don’t even know how long it lasted, it could have been five, ten, fifteen minutes, but I was talking to those guys in Spanish when they started saying they were going to “collect their taxes” and what I found out later is that they meant they were going to collect me. They wanted to collect a ransom. One of them tried to grab me, but I was holding on to Eric, basically holding him back so he wouldn’t fight them, but they couldn’t get me. Then they left and Eric said something as they were leaving and they came back two minutes later. When they came back, they came out of the car with guns, and when that happened, Drewbee ran. Eric’s mentality was “fists first, knives second.” He’s from South Boston and I was like “We don’t do that in L.A.” He was sure they didn’t have guns, and when they came out of the car, Eric wanted to fight them, and what he doesn’t realize is that in L.A., gang mentality here is probably different than where he grew up.

We were with our camera guy and one of our storyteller/producers and they were telling me we needed cars to get out of there, but I was trying to protect Eric and that was a big battle, I was getting thrown down to the ground just to hold on to Eric. So as everyone else filed out of the group meeting, everyone sees me getting attacked, that’s what they were seeing, but in reality, Eric and the producer were trying to protect me. Jasmen had a lot of trauma from being abused and beaten, which she talks about on the show, and she went into trauma mode and wanted to protect me, but the reality was that I was being protected.

What was so scary for me was that my instinct was to protect instead of run, and it went far beyond the call of duty and my job description, so when we finally got in the van, I just burst out crying. I almost got shot for a TV show. With all sincerity, it was the scariest experience of my life and it lasted a lot longer than what you guys see. The fact that nothing happened to us is the greatest blessing ever. Once I got into the van and started to cry, the van went silent, everyone had finally seen me break. I think the severity of what happened made everyone react, and by the time we got to PRC, that’s when all the fights broke out.

Why did they even approach you in the first place, were you on their turf, or were they just trying to mess with you for fun?

We were in a dark alley. You should never, ever, ever walk down a dark alley, especially in a really bad neighborhood. If you see two guys who don’t look like they’re from L.A., especially who are followed by a camera, I don’t know, I think it might have been a mixture of both, you’ve got these two white kids walking down a dark alley in a gang neighborhood and a Latin crazy girl going off on them…I don’t know. I started speaking Spanish to the guys, begging them not to do anything. Production realized what I went trough was a traumatizing experience and offered to give me a few days off and I just looked at them and told them “My job’s not done, I’m not going to leave now,” I wanted to finish the show and it wouldn’t have been fair to the group.

What happened when you got back to the facility and everyone started fighting?

I was getting pushed around a lot that night! I was in between every single fight and I didn’t want anyone to get hurt and I didn’t want Eric to leave. I was trying to calm everyone down and that just went on for a while. Everybody was upset and I didn’t really have a chance to be upset myself except for that minute in the van when I was like “Oh my God, my poor mom almost got that phone call that I got shot,” but the truth is, I had to get serious, you’re in fight or flight mode, and they were all scared and scared for Eric, they didn’t want him to leave.

He went through five or six days where he was constantly like “I’m leaving, I’m leaving!” and at that point he made up his mind that he was leaving. And it was up to me to get him to stay and yet I’m running around just trying to calm the unit down. It was a night of a good four hours of intense drama.

So Eric does run away in the end, what’s the process when someone takes off from the facility like that?

Going through those double doors, if they leave those double doors, they’re automatically discharged. Because of all the drama, I wasn’t going to discharge anyone that night, but Eric was like, “Gimme my stuff,” and I couldn’t leave the facility or go outside to give him his stuff. If he leaves, I can’t stop him, so he took off running in the dark, at night, and I couldn’t stop him. Thank God the cameras were following him to realize where he was going, because I believe he would have died that night.

Do you think that because he would have found drugs and used?

I think something bad would have happened, whether he used or got into trouble, it wouldn’t have ended well for him, you’re talking about being in a bad neighborhood you don’t know, at night. I’m just so thankful that no one got killed or hurt, there is so much you guys didn’t see and I wish you saw more of what really happened and all of us, including the camera man, we were so scared. Someone could have gotten killed.


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Throwback Thursday Pic: A Rehab Star Goes Retro

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We’ve got a new feature here on the VH1 Blog in honor of Throwback Thursday, and it involves some of the most retro, often embarrassing, always cute photos of our favorite VH1 stars. This week’s throwback photo comes from Rehab With Dr. Drew star Jennifer Gimenez, who proves she’s always been photogenic. We can’t look away from her adorableness.


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Jennifer Gimenez Talks Rehab With Dr. Drew Episode 5: Jasmen’s Secret

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Each week after Rehab With Dr. Drew, we’ll be talking to some of the staff on hand at the Pasadena Recovery Center to find out everything that went down in front of and behind the camera with this season’s group of patients. This week we spoke to our friend Jennifer Gimenez, the resident technician at the facility who had battled demons on her own, and she offered up her insight and some behind-the-scenes details for this episode that dealt with Jasmen’s miscarriage, now that her would-be due date approached. Jenn had told me what happens in this episode prior to my watching it because she knew that I’m currently also four months pregnant, and within the episode she also revealed her own miscarriage of a child at four and a half months. Overall, it was a tough thing to watch for anyone but Jasmen’s story resonated strongly for both of us.

You warned me about this episode and just how emotional and hard it would be, and I admit I watched it once and I don’t think I’ll watch it again, there were some things Jasmen revealed that were incredibly hard to hear. How did you feel re-living it as you watched?

Watching the show back, I was pretty much speechless. I was like, “What am I really feeling right now?” Because, you know, I do reveal that I myself have gone through what Jasmen has gone through and I lost a baby at four and a half months pregnant and it was a very traumatizing experience. I think there’s a lot of times where you ask why..why did that happen? Especially in recovery, they say that only through your experiences can you help other people, and experiencing this with Jasmen was as much a healing process for me and it made me realize that this is why I went through this and was able to get through this, in order to help somebody else. I had a lot of closure, to be honest with you. On a selfish level and on a healing level, really. This was one of the most profound reasons why Jasmen drinks and that shame and hurt and remorse she has and that secret she has, you’re only as sick as your secrets and here she is revealing hers, and there’s so much closure. She’s not fighting with Erica because she doesn’t like Erica, they don’t really know each other not to like each other, she’s just acting out. To watch this, I was mourning watching this, but I was also happy that we had each other to go through this together.

She told you there was even more to her story than just the miscarriage, and then we learned that she got rid of the baby’s body on her own and that’s what was killing her. Did you know part two of her story before she told the group?

It was a shocker to me, I did not know about that part, she just keep saying “There’s something more, I’ll tell you soon,” and the first time she told me, it was in front of the group. That’s a strong place to do it. She went through the experience word for word in explaining how it all happened, and she went into the nooks and crannies of her story so she didn’t have to hold on to it anymore. I thought it was so healing for her and so beautiful that she was able to do that. I suggested we have a memorial, a little funeral service for the baby because she says she never go to bury the baby, and that’s what you didn’t see, the group actually held that service for the baby. At the end when you see us all hugging, that’s what we were doing. The whole group united for Jasmen.

Her story was clearly nothing that they expected to hear, you could see the shock on their faces, did things start to make sense to them about why she had been aggressive and hard to deal with up to that point?

As soon as she told the group, you could see the shock, they’re all kind of looking toward Dr. Sharp and I, and I just got up and followed her because I didn’t want her to feel ashamed as she walked away. There’s a lot lot lot of tears going on. Everyone just bonded together and that’s what the unity of a group setting should be like and they did it organically. I will also say that it was such a healing process, and especially seeing the men’s reactions to all of it. You could see Drewbee and Michael and Eric and how broken they were for her. The women too, but I wasn’t expecting the men to be so sensitive and so caring toward her, I was very inspired by that.

Was this situation the turning point in her addiction, or was she always as much of an alcoholic before this happened?

This was the turning point for her. She was already an alcoholic and she was already doing the things she was doing, but once that happened it just went downhill, it was that straw that broke the camel’s back. I’d also like to say that the one other great thing about this episode between Erica and Jasmen, my hat goes off to Erica because she actually confronted Jasmen in a very grown up way and used her tools to work things out with Jasmen. Normally in recovery, that doesn’t happen that quickly and I was very happy to see that, and I hope that’s something Erica is using in her life today. That communication.

Even before Jasmen told her story, it was interesting to see how much of an affect she and her aggression and her behavior had an effect on the group, between Erica and Heather and everyone.

And Heather even says it, these are the reasons why they drink, when she says “I normally would have had a drink at this point.” This is one of the reasons people drink, once they’re in their addiction, this is a greater reason to drink and these are triggers for them and they don’t know how to cope with this or show their emotions yet. So I think this is actually a really good thing that’s happening here, people are starting to feel things.

At the beginning of the episode, Jasmen seemed convinced that she could control herself and her drinking on her own and that seemed to worry everyone. Did that shift at all after she made her big reveal?

Oh, absolutely, it definitely changed. Carrying that secret was a weight and once she got through this and she revealed that secret, she got through this with the group and with me and was like “Oh! This is what recovery looks like.” When you;re going through these things and people are supporting you and no one’s judging you for it. You go, oh, that’s the common bond, we get to go through things together and there should only be support, and I think that really changed for Jasmen.


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Jennifer Gimenez Talks Rehab With Dr. Drew Episode 4: Part Of The Grieving Process

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Each week after Rehab With Dr. Drew, we’ll be talking to some of the staff on hand at the Pasadena Recovery Center to find out everything that went down in front of and behind the camera with this season’s group of patients. This week we spoke to our friend Jennifer Gimenez, the resident technician at the facility who had battled demons on her own, and she offered up her insight and some behind-the-scenes details for this episode. Tonight we discuss Erika’s false positive drug test, Ashleigh’s agitation toward the rest of the group, and Jasmen’s need for family support.

At the end of the last episode, it appeared we were dealing with appositive drug test, but tonight we saw that it was like all a ruse and it wasn’t positive after all, it was just the effects of having benzos in her system.

I know! Here’s the thing though, benzos normally stay in your system for a while, but it was her behavior that was concerning me and I believed the rest of the patients were very concerned for her and the fact that she also had her boyfriend there, who was not really in a lot of acceptance of his own part of the whole situation and how tumultuous that relationship is. It was concerning us; I mean she was definitely not Erika for a good four hours or so, it was a little bit longer than four hours, and I was watching her behavior, and everyone kept coming up and coming up and I’m not going to just jump the gun, we don’t normally do that in treatment, like go “Oh ok! Someone thinks she’s high!” But you’re going to observe and her behavior just got more and more out of control and I do say in there that I was concerned ’cause her eyes at one point were like rolling back and her pupils were so dilated that it was a concern, but thankfully we did the procedures that we needed to do and we tested her and we talked to Dr. Drew, we checked the medications, and we went through what standard procedure is in treatment, but it was good that that it ended up being a result of her not using.

Was she annoyed by everybody doubting her?

I think she started getting more paranoid, I don’t think she was so annoyed, as much as she was just really scared at one point, but she wasn’t annoyed with the group. I think she was more scared and felt bad and she realized that it was going out of control and it was spinning out of control for her.

So everybody in this episode is just on edge. So I’m wondering if you can talk about that a little bit just as far as in your own experience how bad that can get and if it can cause a lot of friction among people in these group settings?

Well this is definitely the agitation show on this episode, because they’re all feeling feelings that they’re not used to. The getting off of drugs and alcohol now, it’s day four, day five, and feelings start coming in that they’re not used to coping with and there is a lot of issues and there’s a lot of issues that they have not ever in their life dealt with. They lost coping skills and all of sudden they’re in a small environment with people they don’t know, and feelings are kicking in, and you’re gonna see them unravel, and get very angry. It’s part of the grieving process; they’re grieving the loss of drugs and alcohol, and then starting to see their reality just a tiny bit. They’re learning to cope and we’re trying to give them some tools and we allow them to process and to kind of work things out on their own. Eric starts really kind of unfolding – his reality is kicking in and he does not have any coping skills whatsoever and he just wants to run.

Ashleigh definitely seemed agitated and had a lot of feelings against the group this week.

No one’s ever gonna go through the same things at the same time, so you’re gonna see their emotions act out in different situations, such as, Ashleigh likes to have her way, certain things in a certain way and, look, they don’t know how to live. It was sloppy, and it was disgusting and we would have them clean, and there was always people cleaning as well, and you just can’t follow them around like a parent, and there has to come a point where you say something and that was what I was saying with Ashleigh. At one part in the show you see me saying to her “You don’t have to attack them,” ’cause her first thing she’s holding, holding, holding everything in and then she shuts down then she’s like. It’s going to come out and I’m trying teach her how to communicate, this is all about communicating and learning to find your voice and to find a balance voice. So she got to come and process it with me and then she did it in the group, and then she act out on Eric. I think she was holding it in and finally she just let it out and it could be somebody looking at you the wrong way or it could be the ashtrays, or it could real — if you take that situation away, she’s still going to have these responses. I’m glad that she was able to have them in treatment.

The other thing that struck me this week was Jasmen’s mother, who was not supportive of her decision to want to stay in a sober living facility and take a continued recess from her regular life. I’m just wondering if it’s disheartening to hear that kind of conversation, it just felt like in that moment her mom was going against what was best for her.

Yeah I mean, look there’s a lot of parents and there’s a lot family members and loved ones that will not go on this journey of recovery with you and it is sad. There’s some people that will be supportive and they really do ultimately and I really do believe that Jasmen’s mom, she definitely wants her daughter better. Jasmen and I had started getting very close and to see what the beautiful thing was, that she all of sudden really did want to get sober, not just like clean up, but she really wanted recovery. She started believing that there was a better way of living and the fact that she was actually voicing this was so important. I say that a lot to people when I work in treatment or if people in recovery, it’s like you know your parents or family members may not want to do this with you and this is where it becomes a selfish program and it’s about you. Do you want to live and do you want to be there for — with Jasmen’s case, for her daughter, for her life, does she want to show up for it, and she’s going to have to take matters into her own hand. She’s an adult and hopefully she starts seeing that, which I do believe she is seeing it, she wants a better life for herself. The seed has been planted and it’s starting to grow, which is a beautiful thing.

I feel like I always gloss over Michael in that way you guys have said that people gloss over a kid like him in treatment because he’s sort of under the radar and seems like he’s doing pretty well. But this week he got a little bit of attention, just because it was hard to pinpoint his reason or the catalyst for he started doing drugs and what his deeper issues were. I’m wondering if it’s common for somebody like him – he says he deals with low self-esteem and he has guilt; if that’s just as prevalent as somebody who’s had major trauma, to start their addiction?

Absolutely. Again Michael is and does fit that beautiful quote of “the All-American Guy, the All-American Boy,” but again let’s not mistake that he is a level 10 addict and has the gene of this disease and he has exposed himself to it, so even though he’s kind and he’s sweet, he’s really endearing, he’s so intelligent, and he has a really good heart, there is also something deep rooted in him. I think that there is more and more will be revealed as you see that, I believe. Sometimes it takes them a little while to unfold and to start really starting to see the things. The bottom line is he’s an addict and he has the gene and he exposed himself to the disease. Even though he says the right things and is sweet and well-mannered and grew up correctly, with a family that loves him, that still doesn’t take away the fact that he suffers from this disease and I think it’s extremely important because there’s a lot of Michaels out there. There’s a lot, a lot, a lot of Michaels that can just get by and hide that. “I hid it for a long time until I couldn’t hide it. I was loved; I was loved as a child and grew up that way.” I understand where Michael is coming from and just speaking with him, we don’t want to necessarily just throw at him what his issues are, we want him to be able to see as well. The guilt, shame, and remorse, there’s more to it. What else is there? The self-esteem, low self-worth and all that it definitely adds to his disease.  Also, I mean at the end of the day he’s an addict. He does the same thing that everyone else with addiction does.


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